Profitable And Unprofitable Relationships

Profitable and Unprofitable Romance

As I was editing this article, I read that Michael Jackson has started battle between Facebook, MySpace, Bebo users, but what you should consider is the success story of Bebo, the social networking website that began from the romantic relationship of Michael Birch when he met the American brunette Xochi at a college bar in London and their loving relationship produced the idea for Bebo in January 2005 and was bought by AOL on March 13, 2008 for $850m (£417m)! This is an illustration of the whole point of this topic on profitable and unprofitable relationships.

We have profitable and unprofitable relationships in life.
Some are caused by unforseen circumstances and others are entirely our choices.
The most important priority is to beware of unprofitable relationships and to end any unprofitable relationship.

Whatever you spend your time or money on is an investment.
How you spend it can make you successful or unsuccessful in life.
Your relationship is an investment.
Whether it is important to you or not does not change the fact that it is an investment.
Whether you like it or not, it is an investment.
It is either a good investment or a bad investment of your time and resources.

You need to sit down for once and evaluate or re-evaluate your relationship with the opposite sex.
Is it worth the time and money you are spending on it?
What are the "pros" and "cons" of your love affairs?
Is she worth it?
Is he worth it?

What are you gaining from dating him or dating her?
Sex apart, what is the benefit?

A very well known Christian minister died in a plane crash in Nigeria whilst visiting his other "wife" that was not known to his legitimate wife. His infidelity cost him his precious life and made his innocent children fatherless and miserable.

How many men have been wasting their time and money on extra-marital affairs?
In fact, many childish and foolish husbands have wasted their monthly salaries on pampering their girlfriends or mistresses.

Most girlfriends going out with boyfriends for the financial benefits can claim that they are having profitable relationships.
But are the boyfriends having profitable relationships?

In Nigeria, unprofitable relationships are responsible for the poverty plaguing the majority of Nigerians and making Nigeria one of the poorest countries in the world in spite of the enormous human and mineral resources.

Millions of Nigerian men waste their quality time and financial resources on unprofitable relationships with girfriends who are not contributing anything at all to their succcess.
A well paid Nigerian man often spends more money monthly on his girlfriend than his wife and children.
An unfaithful Nigerian wife spends more quality time and money on her boyfriend than the time and money she spends at home.
A sugar mummy buys a brand new jeep for her younger lover while one of her children needs medical treatment overseas.
A Nigerian husband buys a brand new car for his girlfriend, but his wife has to take public transport buses, taxi cabs and motorbikes to take their children to school and go to the market to buy foodstuffs for the family. She is risking her life daily for the love of her family, but her husband is wasting his life sleeping with a girlfriend whose high-risk behaviour in the city makes her a possible HIV/AIDS carrier.
The list of such unprofitable relationships is endless.
The relationships are useless.
If they confess what they go through in the course of chasing and dating another woman or another man, you would be shocked.
In fact, many of them have died in horrible and terrible ways.

Let me not prolong this issue, because every wise man and wise woman perfectly understands what is profitable and what is not profitable. Therefore, the choice is yours. I am only addressing this issue, because many of us are ignorant of the great damages such unprofitable relationships have done to individuals, families, communities and even to the rest of the country.

Public officials are misappropriating public funds to pamper and "spoil" their unprofitable girlfriends or mistresses who do not pay tax! Who do not even contribute anything to Nigeria than the fact that they are expendable liabilities.
They have been found guilty of breaking up marriages and leaving children in dire straits in broken homes.
They have given birth to millions of illegitimate children Nigeria did not ask or plan for and creating chaos in dysfunctional familities, committing thousands of abortions of unwanted pregnancies as they are perpetrating and perpetuating rampant corruption and wide spread poverty and also spreading contagious diseases all over Nigeria.
The sooner we get rid of these cankerworms, the better and safer we would all be.
If we do not destroy these evils, these same evils will destroy us eventually.
That is why those engaged in these unprofitable relationships in Nigeria must stop now before it too late.

The men should sit them and sum up the time and money they have spent so far on girlfriends who are not adding any value to your life.

Have you heard of a value-added life?
Any romance that does not add to your life anything of benefit to your family, is unprofitable and not worth it.
End it now.

Mama needs more attention and welfare at home, and you are here spending your precious time and money on shagging your so called girlfriend we all know would not even touch you with a ten feet pole if you could not afford her price.
Hello bro, wake up!
Can she discuss the routines of your daily log in the office?
Can you really sit down and ask for her advice on that memo you received?
Can she do more for you than going shopping, partying and shagging?
Is she your housekeeper and commercial sex worker or a true helpmate/partner?

You have spent N100, 000, N500, 000 or N1, 000, 000 on chasing and dating girlfriends while you have not contributed anything tangible to your poor village where only N500, 000 can give them a borehole for regular water supply or pay the school fees of poor boys or girls in your church or community.

America was not built on unprofitable relationships!
Go and read the history on how America went through The Great Depression and became a super power.
They spent more time and money on profitable relationships.

We are aping the America of today, but we forget that most Americans have paid their dues to their nation, but most Nigerians have not paid their dues to Nigeria. They are busy destroying Nigeria by their unprofitable ways of life, doing us more harm than good.

Is your relationship doing you more harm than good?
Then it is an unprofitable relationship.
End it and you will have a better and safer life.

How many times have you sat down with your sweetheart to plan for the future?
How to manage your salary?
How to manage your shares and other financial interests?
How to manage your health insurance and life insurance?
How to move on to the next level on the ladder of progress and success?

Has she asked you about any of the above?
Besides the cliché of "How now?", "How was today?" or "I hope you are fine?"
Any dummy can ask similar questions.
Has she asked anything more than that on your progress report at work compared to how many demands she has made for her selfish gratification?
She eats into your budget until your budget is no longer worth it.
She gives you stress until you lose focus and may even have premature hypertension at 35!
Hello bro, wake up!

My sweethearts and aunties need to ask themselves similar questions.
Does he care about your welfare and the welfare of your family?
I know boyfiends who do not even know where their girlfriends live!
They simply pick her up and drop her off after having their so called "Good Time".
I was guilty of this many years ago.

Forget all the lovey-dovey mannerisms, because in most cases they are mere impressionism or a game of wits to see who would outsmart the other eventually.
The lovey-dovey ends the day he has had enough and once to move on to the next target or the day she has had her fill of you and she wants to hook a richer target at first sight.

How much a man cares about you depends not on the time or money he spends on you, but on how much interest he has in your health, education, career, family, security and future.
He must want the best for you and he must prove his love for you by doing his best for you.
If he is not committed to the above top priorities, he does no love you.
End the unprofitable relationship before you are trapped.

"Only the best is good enough for us."
~ Bishop Samuel Ajayi Crowther

If Your Girlfriend is A Good Actress

If she is a good actress, then you should be a good director.

Many girls and women are very good in playing "girlfriends" and "lovers" to get what they want from men.

1. She can lie to you that she does not have a boyfriend in her ploy to lure you and seduce you into a relationship for her own agenda.

2. She can be cheating on you and still pretend to be faithful to you.

3. She could be sly while pretending to be shy.

You can handle her very well if you know how to play your cards very well like the game of Bullshit.

This kind of use your sex to get what you want romance is actually like the game of Bullshit, because it best describes what she is playing, BS, Cheat, and I Doubt It.

Going out with her is like a drama script and whatever role she is playing, you must be able to direct it without her knowledge. Simply play along.

It is like directing Two Can Play.

You should be ahead of her wits and skills.

Do not waste your quality time and resources on her.

Keep your trump cards to yourself.

What is A Boyfriend?

What is a Boyfriend?

A man who is the lover of a girl or young woman.

~ wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

A boyfriend is a male partner in a non-marital romantic relationship. ~en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boyfriend

A boyfriend is a boyfriend, but a boyfriend means something different to a poor girl from a rich girl.

To most poor girls and poor single women, a Boyfriend is the man she has chosen to date and sleep with for material benefits in cash or kind.

It is not easy for poor girls and poor single women to have a relationship with a man if he cannot provide or supply their needs. And if he cannot supply on demand, they move on to other targets.

The comfortable or rich girls and rich single women are the most trust worthy, because they are not going out with a guy for his money or material gains. They are going out with a guy, because they need him in their lives as a friend or lover.

It is pathetic if the only thing a girlfriend can offer a boyfriend in a relationship is sex.

If sex is the only thing you can give your boyfriend in return, then he might as well be dating a call girl.

A poor girl or single woman can have what I call value-added relationship with a boyfriend by offering him more than sexual gratification. So, do not make him feel like he is paying you for dating you.

Once in a while, save and buy him gifts and do not do this like a trade by barter, because many girlfriends only give gifts to their boyfriends to bargain for something costlier than what they have given to them.

Boyfriends appreciate gifts from their girlfriends, regardless of the price-tag.

A nice shirt, underwear or hair shampoo would be well received.

Boyfriends appreciate girlfriends who show mutual interest in their academic or professional goals. Therefore, girlfriends should be what God made Eve to be to Adam, a help mate and not a sex machine.

Discuss your academic or professional objectives and relate as partners in progress in the pursuit of your mutual success.

If a girlfriend has the bad habit of always demanding gifts and money from a boyfriend, she is sending wrong signals and such a negative impression can put him off.

A boyfriend should be first; Your Friend for the love of sharing and caring for someone.

Sex should not used as your bargaining chip to get something from your boyfriend.

Do not try to be smart by seeing or using a boyfriend as your constant source of regular income.

If you are a poor girl or poor single woman and your boyfriend gives you money, do not spend all the cash on shopping!

You can save some of the sums for the rainy day.

Do not blow it all in a week and rush to demand more money.

You can spend half of the sum on investments.

In Nigeria, you can buy shares or start a pay-phone call center with some cash.

If you are a student on or off campus, buy shares or start the pay-phone call center serviced by Starcomms. This will give you regular income and save you from the harassment and embarrassment of sexual abuse.

According to Starcomms Marketing Director Manoj Vashisht:
"All an operator needs is to simply buy a Starcomms Smart Center specially designed for tele-centers and get rewarded with up to 7,000 naira [US$60] in bonus on 60,000 naira of monthly airtime spent in the Starcomms Bonuzee loyalty program."

"The aim of making this package very affordable is to empower more Nigerians, especially youths and entrepreneurs in general."

You can employ a young school leaver to operate it at a busy bus stop or street corner. This is a booming business in Nigeria.

It is not easy for poor girls and poor single women in Nigeria to ignore the temptations of using their sex for material benefits by dating and sleeping with boyfriends who can afford to give them money and gifts. But if they use their brains more than their loins, they will be healthier, safer and wealthier than those who abuse and misuse their sexual organs for material possessions.

I knew many poor girls and poor single women who could not buy sanitary pads and one of them told me that she tore one of her white Clothes and used a piece as sanitary pad.

In Northern Nigeria, most of the poor girls and poor single women do not even bother to use sanitary pads. When they sleep with boyfriends for cash, they spend the money on new clothes and continue with their careless way of life in ignorance of how a small sum of money can empower them to become self-reliant.

Girlfriends and single women should have scruples, and respect the values and virtues of the dignity, integrity and nobility of womanhood.

This post will help the poor girls and single women in Nigeria and make them earn the respect of their boyfriends who would appreciate them more if they do not use sex to bargain for material supplies.

Cheers and God bless.

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Is It Wrong To Ask About The Characters of the Ex-Lovers of Your Girlfriend?

Is It Wrong To Ask About The Characters of the Ex-Lovers of Your Girlfriend?

I am a writer and writers are naturally very inquisitive and receptive.
We like investigations.
Investigations and questions have given answers and solutions to the numerous problems of life on earth.

I asked my "wife" about the kind of men her ex-boyfriends were and even asked her how she has been relating with them.
Is she still communicating with them or not?
Is she having any other lover or lovers?
Simple fact-finding questions.

I am very open minded and transparent.

I usually ask her if she has dated or even slept with another man or men behind my back, so that I would be warned before sleeping with her to avoid contracting whatever she might have contracted from another man or men.
But she became angry.
But I did not mean any harm.

I told her my life and future meant the whole world to me and it would be foolish and stupid to let illicit sex ruin my life.
So, it is only wise to ask life saving questions on sexual relationships between your regular lover and other lovers.
It would be foolish and stupid to believe that your partner can never have an affair.

It is important to me, because I am far away from her and I have only slept with her twice since we met two years ago and she iis the only woman I have slept with since 1999 to date.

I can vouch for myself since I know myself and my medical history.

Why I prefer to remain faithful to one woman is for the great fear of STDs, AIDS and other known and unknown elements one can contract through sexual relationships.

I know how wayward men and women could be since Adam and Eve.

A man may be married to an Alpha Woman who is well educated and of high class, but he can still be foolish and stupid to sleep with a prostitute like the disgraced former governor of New York, Eliot Spitzer.

I find it shocking for a man to mess around with any monkey and ape in skirts or pants and still go and sleep with his Alpha woman.

Have you ever paused to ponder how those mad women still get pregnant on the street?
The same man who slept with the mad woman and impregnated her would have returned home to sleep with his wife or his girlfriend.

I have a cousin who slept with the street girls in Lagos city and returned home to sleep with his wife who is a senior manager in one of the biggest companies in Nigeria. She went to the best universities in Nigeria and she is very beautiful and faithful to him, but he will disrespect her to the extent of messing aroud with half-educated ugly girls I cannot even shake their hands!

What of the dashing Nigerian banker who has an equally successful girlfriend or fiancée, but does not care to sleep with the young woman hawking oranges at the bus stop?

There are so many baffling or appalling horrible and terrible things humans do for sex.
In 30 minutes it would be over, but the consequences could do you more harm than good.
Think twice before you sleep with anybody, regardless of their looks or class.

We need to fear all these dangers and consequences of illicit sexual intercourse. So, you have the right to ask all the necessary questions and do all the necessary investigations for your own safety and security before marriage and during marriage.

I respect women and actually put them on a high pedestal, but once I discover that you do not have scruples and you can sleep and mess around with any man without any dignity and integrity, I will disgrace you.

You can be safe, but do you know if he is safe?
Forget all the sweet words and lies.
Forget all the expensive gifts and outings.
Forget the dashing looks, posh cars and luxury apartments.
Do you know the characters he has been sleeping with before you and even while still seeing you?

I knew a Nigerian billionaire who had beautiful wives from the upper class and he was still sleeping with dirty women in unhygienic places.

The sooner we expose these characters, the better and safer others would be, lest they continue fooling and harming the ignorant ones.

It is only wise to ask my "wife" sensitive questions after 19 months apart.

If I can be faithful, that does not mean she can be as faithful as I am, because we are two different human personalities and I cannot use my standards to judge her.

"Have you had fun with any other man or men in my absence?"
It is a good and safe question to ask her.
Your future will be more secure if both of you are open minded.
There cannot be trust when one of the partners is not honest and transparent or is afraid of the truth.
No truth, no trust.

A girlfriend was seeing me years ago, but I did not want to sleep with her, because if I have no intention of marrying a woman, I will not sleep with her. She met one of my cousins and slept with him. I only asked her if she loved him and she nodded affirmatively. She has her life to live.
When my cousin dumped her, I still comforted her until she chose to go out with one of my Muslim friends and I did not stop her.

My life is very simple.
I only ask for two things.
Honesty and transparency.

If you have anything for or against me, spell or spill it out and let us deal with it before it is too late. But if you are dishonest and not transparent that would be bad and then you are unrepentant, you have only made the case worse.

There is nothing wrong in discussing sexual relationships with your partner.

"Yes darling. I had an affair while you were away."
"I hope you did not contract any disease or even demomic elements?"

Call it infidelity, betrayal or whatever label in the dictionary, but confessing your wrong doing or sin would be better than concealing it.

The word of God says, we should confess our sins to one another and forgive each other.

He who conceals his sins does not prosper,
but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
~ Proverbs 28:13 (New International Version)

If you are unfaithful to your partner, please confess the truth to him or her.
Covering or hiding it will only make things worse whenever he or she finds out.

Please, if your partner has been unfaithful, forgive your partner once he or she confesses and repents.
Continue with your partner or move on with another worthy partner.
Do not make things worse by harming him or her.

My life means more to me than having a heart attack over sex.

There is nothing wrong in asking your partner whether he or she has been faithful to you or not.

Free your mind of the festering thorns in your heart.

There are no roses without thorns.
Remove the thorns and you will have a bountiful bouquet of beautiful roses, that would be a delight to sight and a joy in your heart.

Life goes on.

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