Is It Wrong To Ask About The Characters of the Ex-Lovers of Your Girlfriend?

Is It Wrong To Ask About The Characters of the Ex-Lovers of Your Girlfriend?

I am a writer and writers are naturally very inquisitive and receptive.
We like investigations.
Investigations and questions have given answers and solutions to the numerous problems of life on earth.

I asked my "wife" about the kind of men her ex-boyfriends were and even asked her how she has been relating with them.
Is she still communicating with them or not?
Is she having any other lover or lovers?
Simple fact-finding questions.

I am very open minded and transparent.

I usually ask her if she has dated or even slept with another man or men behind my back, so that I would be warned before sleeping with her to avoid contracting whatever she might have contracted from another man or men.
But she became angry.
But I did not mean any harm.

I told her my life and future meant the whole world to me and it would be foolish and stupid to let illicit sex ruin my life.
So, it is only wise to ask life saving questions on sexual relationships between your regular lover and other lovers.
It would be foolish and stupid to believe that your partner can never have an affair.

It is important to me, because I am far away from her and I have only slept with her twice since we met two years ago and she iis the only woman I have slept with since 1999 to date.

I can vouch for myself since I know myself and my medical history.

Why I prefer to remain faithful to one woman is for the great fear of STDs, AIDS and other known and unknown elements one can contract through sexual relationships.

I know how wayward men and women could be since Adam and Eve.

A man may be married to an Alpha Woman who is well educated and of high class, but he can still be foolish and stupid to sleep with a prostitute like the disgraced former governor of New York, Eliot Spitzer.

I find it shocking for a man to mess around with any monkey and ape in skirts or pants and still go and sleep with his Alpha woman.

Have you ever paused to ponder how those mad women still get pregnant on the street?
The same man who slept with the mad woman and impregnated her would have returned home to sleep with his wife or his girlfriend.

I have a cousin who slept with the street girls in Lagos city and returned home to sleep with his wife who is a senior manager in one of the biggest companies in Nigeria. She went to the best universities in Nigeria and she is very beautiful and faithful to him, but he will disrespect her to the extent of messing aroud with half-educated ugly girls I cannot even shake their hands!

What of the dashing Nigerian banker who has an equally successful girlfriend or fiancée, but does not care to sleep with the young woman hawking oranges at the bus stop?

There are so many baffling or appalling horrible and terrible things humans do for sex.
In 30 minutes it would be over, but the consequences could do you more harm than good.
Think twice before you sleep with anybody, regardless of their looks or class.

We need to fear all these dangers and consequences of illicit sexual intercourse. So, you have the right to ask all the necessary questions and do all the necessary investigations for your own safety and security before marriage and during marriage.

I respect women and actually put them on a high pedestal, but once I discover that you do not have scruples and you can sleep and mess around with any man without any dignity and integrity, I will disgrace you.

You can be safe, but do you know if he is safe?
Forget all the sweet words and lies.
Forget all the expensive gifts and outings.
Forget the dashing looks, posh cars and luxury apartments.
Do you know the characters he has been sleeping with before you and even while still seeing you?

I knew a Nigerian billionaire who had beautiful wives from the upper class and he was still sleeping with dirty women in unhygienic places.

The sooner we expose these characters, the better and safer others would be, lest they continue fooling and harming the ignorant ones.

It is only wise to ask my "wife" sensitive questions after 19 months apart.

If I can be faithful, that does not mean she can be as faithful as I am, because we are two different human personalities and I cannot use my standards to judge her.

"Have you had fun with any other man or men in my absence?"
It is a good and safe question to ask her.
Your future will be more secure if both of you are open minded.
There cannot be trust when one of the partners is not honest and transparent or is afraid of the truth.
No truth, no trust.

A girlfriend was seeing me years ago, but I did not want to sleep with her, because if I have no intention of marrying a woman, I will not sleep with her. She met one of my cousins and slept with him. I only asked her if she loved him and she nodded affirmatively. She has her life to live.
When my cousin dumped her, I still comforted her until she chose to go out with one of my Muslim friends and I did not stop her.

My life is very simple.
I only ask for two things.
Honesty and transparency.

If you have anything for or against me, spell or spill it out and let us deal with it before it is too late. But if you are dishonest and not transparent that would be bad and then you are unrepentant, you have only made the case worse.

There is nothing wrong in discussing sexual relationships with your partner.

"Yes darling. I had an affair while you were away."
"I hope you did not contract any disease or even demomic elements?"

Call it infidelity, betrayal or whatever label in the dictionary, but confessing your wrong doing or sin would be better than concealing it.

The word of God says, we should confess our sins to one another and forgive each other.

He who conceals his sins does not prosper,
but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
~ Proverbs 28:13 (New International Version)

If you are unfaithful to your partner, please confess the truth to him or her.
Covering or hiding it will only make things worse whenever he or she finds out.

Please, if your partner has been unfaithful, forgive your partner once he or she confesses and repents.
Continue with your partner or move on with another worthy partner.
Do not make things worse by harming him or her.

My life means more to me than having a heart attack over sex.

There is nothing wrong in asking your partner whether he or she has been faithful to you or not.

Free your mind of the festering thorns in your heart.

There are no roses without thorns.
Remove the thorns and you will have a bountiful bouquet of beautiful roses, that would be a delight to sight and a joy in your heart.

Life goes on.

Recommended Reading: Scarlet Tears of London

What People Do for Sex?

The Eliot Spitzer sex scandal rocking America is raising so much dust in the eyes of Americans and others on the consequences of extramarital affairs and how much humans are willing to pay for sex, whether flings or long term erotic romance with or without strings attached.

Sex is not the problem, humans are the problem.
Humans who lack self-control or those who are sex-maniacs.

How much would you pay for sex?

Countless people have paid with their precious lives. Men have raped girls and women and even murdered their helpless victims in the process. Others have killed over love affairs like the husband in my village who murdered his neighbour, because he committed adultery with his wife. He separated his head from the rest of his body in broad daylight.

"No human pays $5000 for sex. Only companies do. Because they can deduct it as entertainment. It's like when a corporation lends you their private jet to campaign in. That's what private jets are for."
~ Chris Kelly on Come Back, Eliot Spitzer!

Senorita Walker, a 33-year-old Chicago high school teacher paid three teenage boys $5000 to have sex with her.
~From the Smoking Gun.


Senorita Walker

Men and women suffering from "nymphomania" and "satyriasis" will pay thousands of dollars to have sex with anyone who can make them happy.

Hypersexuality is desire to engage in human sexual behavior at a level high enough to be considered clinically significant. Hypersexuality is characterized by a debilitating need for frequent genital stimulation which, once achieved, may fail to result in the expected long-term emotional—or sexual—satisfaction. This dissatisfaction is what is believed to encourage the heightened frequency of sexual stimulation, as well as additional physiological and neurological symptoms.
~ Wikipedia

Remember the case of
Debra Lafave, the young and very pretty reading teacher at Angelo L. Greco Middle School in Temple Terrace, Florida, who was charged with statutory rape for having sex with a 14-year-old boy in her class?


Debra Lafave

The ex-husband wrote the book "Gorgeous Disaster" about her.

When we abuse and misuse sex, we should be ready to pay the price.

Look before you leap.

Eliot Spitzer and "Kristen": Sex, Love and Hypocrisy in America

"Kristen"

The American mainstream news media and blogosphere have gone haywire over the Spitzer Is Linked to Prostitution Ring - New York Times story and I have already commented and posted other views on, Let The American Man Who Has Never Paid for Sex In Cash or in Kind, Let Him First Cast A Stone At Eliot Spitzer, Could the Patriot Act Have Brought Down Eliot Spitzer? and Governor, Eliot Spitzer: Liberal Hypocrisy Exposed... Again.

This whole scandal is another exposure of the reign of hypocrisy in the American society.
Imagine even the LGBT Community calling for the head of Gov. Eliot Spitzer. The worse sinners are always the loudest noise makers in the public trial of others.

Governor Eliot Spitzer

The so called "Kristen was interviewed by the New York Times and she gave her real name as Ashley Alexandra Dupre, age 22, and she is even a singer from a broken home in New Jersey before moving to New York City and got employed by the Emperors Club VIP.

Kristen spent the eve of ST. Valentine's Day with Mr. Eliot Spitzer at the Mayflower Hotel in Washington. She is on MySpace page and has left the following details about her.

I live in New York and am on top of the world. Been here since 2004 and I love
this city, I love my life here. But, my path has not been easy. When I was 17, I
left home. It was my decision and I've never looked back. Left my hometown. Left
a broken family. Left abuse. Left an older brother who had already split. Left
and learned what it was like to have everything, and lose it, again and again.
Learned what it was like to wake up one day and have the people you care about
most gone. I have been alone. I have abused drugs. I have been broke and
homeless. But, I survived, on my own. I am here, in NY because of my music...
Don't let anyone hold you back or tell you that you can't...because you can.

Please, buy her love song here for just $0.34

More details on the Huffington Post