Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

I mean you know you are fortunate to come from a privileged family or have privileges the poor girls and women do not have and they cannot compete with you in the acquisition of the status symbols of your class conscious society.
Like you are a girl or lady from privileged background living your high life in the mega city of Lagos in Nigeria who can afford to go to the Silvierbird cinemas or Genesis Deluxe cinemas and later dine and wine at the fancy restaurants in on Victoria Island where you also meet and hook up with the big boys who frequent these places that only the comfortable people can afford, do you wonder how you would fare if you were not so opportune or privileged?

Would the big boys still treat you with comfort and respect if you were a poor babe from the ghettos of Isale Eko, Ajegunle or Makoko?

Like when you fancy a guy who is dating a poor girl or lady, do you respect her or look down on her and use your privileges to lure and snatch the guy from the poor girl or lady?

Have you imagined how she copes and fares living in a tenement where she shares the toilet with over 20 others who are co-tenants with her family?

Yes, all fingers are not equal and no condition is permanent, but have you ever practiced equity in your friendship and relationship with your fellow girls and ladies from different social backgrounds or you lead a dog eat dog life?
Are you an oppressor of the poor girls and ladies among you?

I have seen female students on the same campus in Lagos, but who actually feel superior to their fellow campus babes, because of the social class discrimination or because they have better opportunities than them.
I mean both of them are at UNILAG, but while one is from a privileged family in Ikoyi the other one is from a poor family in the back streets of Yaba. The privileged girl looks down on the poor one and simply says, “We are not in the same class.” But you are in the same university and all things being equal if the poor girl concentrates on her studies she will excel and graduate in flying colours and get her dream job that comes with all the perks and from the ghetto of Yaba she relocates to Lekki and then she catches up with the Joneses. Now would you still look down on her?

There are many different examples of these cases in every community of every society and the point is, we should relate with others in the loving kindness of TRUE LOVE by caring and sharing whatever we claim to have and not using our privileges or advantages to oppress others in our midst no matter their family backgrounds.
Lest we forget, none of us had the choice to be born poor or born rich. Therefore we should not use our contrasting backgrounds negatively but positively in our friendships and relationships.

Forget the lip service and eye service of the hypocrites who flatter you, exploiting the advantages of their privileges.

Beware of fair weather friends and lovers?
Mind how you relate and treat others today, because when tomorrow comes the times may bring you down at their feet.

I wish you happy holidays of true love.


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

What is A Boyfriend?

What is a Boyfriend?

A man who is the lover of a girl or young woman.

~ wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

A boyfriend is a male partner in a non-marital romantic relationship. ~en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boyfriend

A boyfriend is a boyfriend, but a boyfriend means something different to a poor girl from a rich girl.

To most poor girls and poor single women, a Boyfriend is the man she has chosen to date and sleep with for material benefits in cash or kind.

It is not easy for poor girls and poor single women to have a relationship with a man if he cannot provide or supply their needs. And if he cannot supply on demand, they move on to other targets.

The comfortable or rich girls and rich single women are the most trust worthy, because they are not going out with a guy for his money or material gains. They are going out with a guy, because they need him in their lives as a friend or lover.

It is pathetic if the only thing a girlfriend can offer a boyfriend in a relationship is sex.

If sex is the only thing you can give your boyfriend in return, then he might as well be dating a call girl.

A poor girl or single woman can have what I call value-added relationship with a boyfriend by offering him more than sexual gratification. So, do not make him feel like he is paying you for dating you.

Once in a while, save and buy him gifts and do not do this like a trade by barter, because many girlfriends only give gifts to their boyfriends to bargain for something costlier than what they have given to them.

Boyfriends appreciate gifts from their girlfriends, regardless of the price-tag.

A nice shirt, underwear or hair shampoo would be well received.

Boyfriends appreciate girlfriends who show mutual interest in their academic or professional goals. Therefore, girlfriends should be what God made Eve to be to Adam, a help mate and not a sex machine.

Discuss your academic or professional objectives and relate as partners in progress in the pursuit of your mutual success.

If a girlfriend has the bad habit of always demanding gifts and money from a boyfriend, she is sending wrong signals and such a negative impression can put him off.

A boyfriend should be first; Your Friend for the love of sharing and caring for someone.

Sex should not used as your bargaining chip to get something from your boyfriend.

Do not try to be smart by seeing or using a boyfriend as your constant source of regular income.

If you are a poor girl or poor single woman and your boyfriend gives you money, do not spend all the cash on shopping!

You can save some of the sums for the rainy day.

Do not blow it all in a week and rush to demand more money.

You can spend half of the sum on investments.

In Nigeria, you can buy shares or start a pay-phone call center with some cash.

If you are a student on or off campus, buy shares or start the pay-phone call center serviced by Starcomms. This will give you regular income and save you from the harassment and embarrassment of sexual abuse.

According to Starcomms Marketing Director Manoj Vashisht:
"All an operator needs is to simply buy a Starcomms Smart Center specially designed for tele-centers and get rewarded with up to 7,000 naira [US$60] in bonus on 60,000 naira of monthly airtime spent in the Starcomms Bonuzee loyalty program."

"The aim of making this package very affordable is to empower more Nigerians, especially youths and entrepreneurs in general."

You can employ a young school leaver to operate it at a busy bus stop or street corner. This is a booming business in Nigeria.

It is not easy for poor girls and poor single women in Nigeria to ignore the temptations of using their sex for material benefits by dating and sleeping with boyfriends who can afford to give them money and gifts. But if they use their brains more than their loins, they will be healthier, safer and wealthier than those who abuse and misuse their sexual organs for material possessions.

I knew many poor girls and poor single women who could not buy sanitary pads and one of them told me that she tore one of her white Clothes and used a piece as sanitary pad.

In Northern Nigeria, most of the poor girls and poor single women do not even bother to use sanitary pads. When they sleep with boyfriends for cash, they spend the money on new clothes and continue with their careless way of life in ignorance of how a small sum of money can empower them to become self-reliant.

Girlfriends and single women should have scruples, and respect the values and virtues of the dignity, integrity and nobility of womanhood.

This post will help the poor girls and single women in Nigeria and make them earn the respect of their boyfriends who would appreciate them more if they do not use sex to bargain for material supplies.

Cheers and God bless.

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