Enemies of Valentine's Day

The point here is that this day should not provide an opportunity to extort or to exploit. Indeed, emphasis by a lady on material gifts would demean her as a chattel.
~ The Guardian of Nigeria, Monday February 14, 2011.

Those who think St. Valentine's Day is for trading their bodies for money and gifts are the enemies of St. Valentine's Day.

Valentine's Day is not for the lovers of lust, but for the custodians of true love.

Anyone who is going to use today to extort and exploit you does not know what is love.

Say no to anyone who wants to abuse and misuse today to reduce you to a sex object of lust.

Today you may find out the truth about your so called girlfriend.
Whether you are truly her boyfriend or customer.

If she is not happy and satisfied that you love her for the true virtues and values of love, then she is not your true love.

If he is not happy that you refuse to sleep with him today, then he is not worthy of you.

Do not hawk and sell yourself to day in the disguise of Valentine's Day.

Today, someone is cheating on another in the name of Valentine.
Today someone is committing adultery in the name of Valentine.

They are the enemies of Valentine's Day.

Spend today sharing and caring for your beloved and others who need your love.


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

Beauty Benefits of Sex

Sex is beautiful when you enjoy it with the one you love. And healthy sex life makes a woman more beautiful and attractive, prettier and sexier for the lucky man in your love life. Andrea Miller in the video. Enjoy!




Andrea Miller is here to tell us why there are so many beauty benefits to having a good sex life.

Love & Money: Making Sure Your Valentine is a Good Financial Match

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Love & Money: Making Sure Your Valentine is a Good Financial Match


As Valentine's Day approaches, couples rush to find the right ways to say "I love you." What they might not realize is it takes financial compatibility to sustain a healthy, long-term romantic relationship. In fact, money is the number one cause of relationship trouble in the United States.(1) Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Consumer Advocate Eleanor Blayney, CFP® has some timely advice on how to strengthen a relationship and stop trouble before it starts – at least when it comes to money.

"Finances may not be the most romantic thing to discuss, but ignoring them can create big problems later in the relationship," Blayney said. "Partners today are more financially separate, having their own incomes, assets and debts. Full financial disclosure is imperative, considering that many individuals carry a heavy bag of financial behaviors and obligations into their relationships."

Here are some ideas that can make mixing love and money less of a tricky proposition:

* Explain What Money Means: Childhood perceptions of what money meant and how it was managed in families can shape the way adults deal with their finances. Sharing those early money perceptions with a partner can clarify what's important – and what's not – and avoid misunderstandings later in a relationship.

* Sync Money Goals with Life Goals: Sitting down and talking about each individual's vision of the future can help bridge the gap between partners' financial realities and life goals. If one wants a mansion in the nicest part of town while the other wants to send the kids to private school, priorities may need to be re-aligned to meet these different objectives. Each goal may require different planning and sacrifice that both partners buy into. It's important to take the time to align these goals early.

* Define "My" Money and "Our" Money: As counterintuitive as it may seem, it's important to discuss the need for some financial separateness in a relationship. Together, a couple should decide what assets will remain his or hers alone – without having to account to the other person – and what assets will be combined. Letting a spender have some "mad money" and a saver have a separate nest egg can prevent later acts of "financial infidelity" where partners start keeping accounts secret from one another.

* Plan for the Unexpected: Partners should create a financial contingency plan that lays out how each will work together should financial crises like a job loss or medical emergency arise. The best time to plan for the rough spots is while the road is still smooth.


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Proof We're a Nation of Romantics

3 Feb 2011 15:47 Africa/Lagos


Proof We're a Nation of Romantics

LONDON, February 3, 2011/PRNewswire/ -- The results of a recent survey conducted by Interflora show that romance is well and truly alive in the UK and surprisingly men and women are more or less on the same page when it comes to their plans for this year.

Where is the love?

Those who say romance is dead are way off the mark. Latest research from Interflora reveals that a resounding 71% of us plan to celebrate Valentine's Day this year.

Full details of the compelling results can be found on the Interflora blog ( http://blog.interflora.co.uk/interflora-valentines-day-survey-infographic/) and a summary of the results are presented below.

When it comes to romance, though, it seems your postcode may be your most vital statistic.

This year, those living in Scotland are in for a great Valentine's Day - almost 69% say they are planning to celebrate the most romantic day of the year.

Things aren't looking so rosy for those living in Northern Ireland, though - only 46% of respondents are planning to surprise a loved one.

In London, 62% are gearing up for February 14th, as are 61% of those in the North West, the West Midlands and the South East and 60% in the East Midlands.

Let's hope those who are a little absent-minded will have their memory jogged before the big day as 14% of men have been in the doghouse on previous Valentine's Days when they forgot all about it.

Romance is blooming

Valentine's Day wouldn't be the same without flowers and this year red roses will, unsurprisingly, make up most of the bouquets sent, with 63% saying they will be selecting for arguably the most romantic of blooms. 11% will be sending roses of a different colour. And of the rose senders, 69% will be pulling out all the stops and sending a dozen.

The element of surprise is important too...

79% of men who give flowers prefer to surprise their partner with blooms delivered by a florist.

70% of women prefer to have flowers sent to their home address

Price of love

The average spend for Valentine's Day this year will be between GBP36 and GBP50, with 42% of respondents spending between these amounts.

7% will be spending between GBP51 and GBP100 and only 1% will be pushing the boat out and spending at least GBP100.

What women want

When it comes to how the day is marked, there's a surprising number of men getting it just right...

37% of men are planning to take their partner for a romantic meal

30% of women have put this top of their Valentine's list.

19% of women would love to be whisked off for a romantic weekend, but sadly only 11% need pack their weekend bags.

Those wanting jewellery may be a little disappointed with only half of the 16% dreaming of it actually having a tell-tale box to unwrap.

When it comes to lingerie, both genders are in perfect agreement. So let's hope the 9% of men buying sexy underwear will be giving it to the 9% of women hoping their present will be of the lacy kind.

Interflora surveyed 2,634 adults living in the UK during January 2011.

Notes to editors

To view the full survey infographic,please visit the Interflora Blog at http://blog.interflora.co.uk/interflora-valentines-day-survey-infographic/.

Source: Interflora

For further information contact the Interflora press office: 0800-542-1891 - press.enquiries@interflora.co.uk

Cheating: To forgive is possible, but to forget is impossible

Forget all the hypocritical clichés on forgiving and forgetting.

To forgive is possible, but to forget is impossible, except you are suffering from amnesia.

Your brain keeps records of the experiences of your life and you cannot delete them by wishing them away.
You have to learn to live with them for life.

Honestly, I can only forgive if the offender is truly repentant.

There is no forgiveness without repentance.
That is why our Lord and Messiah Jesus Christ warned us to REPENT OR PERISH.
So, except you really repent, you will perish.
Only God knows when, where and how.
So, the sooner you repent the better, healthier and safer you would be.



Photo Credit: Saving Your Marriage Advice.


Personally if I catch my woman or wife in adultery and she repents, I will forgive her. But there is no way you can delete it from your memory.

The grave consequences of infidelity are life-threatening, because the offenders can go as far as plotting to eliminate you to cover up and continue their infidelity.

The woman is to blame in infidelity, except she is a victim of rape.



There is no excuse for infidelity if you truly love your partner.

If you no longer love your partner or you are tired of your relationship or marriage, the wise thing to do is QUIT.
QUIT AND THEN YOU ARE FREE TO DO AS YOU WISH AND NOBODY CAN ACCUSE YOU OF INFIDELITY.

But when you are stabbing your partner in the back, you are actually killing him or her.

To save your life, get rid of the offender before he or she kills you.

The world is a battle field, and we are all fighting for survival in a hostile planet.

It is better to lose your lover than to lose your life.



~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

My dear Nigerian girls and ladies

Beautiful Nigerian maiden by Grace Bernard

My dear Nigerian girls and ladies

Lest we forget, not all girls are ladies.
That said, let me PLEASE, and appeal to you one more time,
It is good to love and have fun, but PLEASE, DO SO WITHOUT LOSING YOUR DIGNITY, INTEGRITY AND NOBILITY AND NOT BEHAVING LIKE DOGS.
God made every woman to be the virtuous woman, but majority of them have rewired themselves to become promiscuous and unscrupulous women who do not care about the dignity, integrity and nobility of womanhood.
Our beautiful daughters, sisters, aunts and mothers deserve RESPECT and we should TREAT them with dignity as not seen and used as sex objects.
You should be controlled by your brains and not by money and sex.
You should be ruled by your intellect and not by your animal instinct.
You humans created in the beautiful and wonderful image of God and not animals.
So, do comport yourselves as God made you beautiful, powerful and wonderful helpmate for men.
Be a blessing to your family and society and not a curse.
Make us proud and not disgraced.
You must reject everyone who sees you as a sex object.
YOU ARE NOT A SEX OBJECT, BUT AN OBJECT OF BEAUTY, DIGNITY, INTEGRITY AND NOBILITY AND A GREAT BLESSING TO HUMANITY.

Sing and share this all time classic song by
Juliana Aquino

I’m So Glad That I’m A Woman lyrics

In the morning when I wake up
As I comb my hair
I can hear my daddy saying
It’s a big big world out there
While putting on my make-up
His words linger in the air
Just use the love I gave you
And you can make it anywhere

I’m so glad that I’m a woman
I know I wouldn’t trade
I know I got it made
We’re the life line of mankind
And now is the time for me

Life is such a challenge
Live it day by day
You never know what’s gonna happen
A what might come your way
Just stop and think about it
There is nothing we can do
They can’t live without us and
We can’t live without them too

We Are What We Do

What matters most is not what we say, but what we do every day by day to each other.
You cannot even count how many times we have failed to keep our word, when you say one thing today, but you do the opposite tomorrow and end up with the bitterness and sadness of your lies and broken promises in shame and sorrow.

I have said before and may I repeat it, that the less cheats and beasts we have in our midst the better, healthier and safer we would be.
So, do not accept any cheat or beast, the wolves in sheep clothing in the ranch of life.
Get rid of them before they do worse things to you and I.
The sooner you remove the bad apple from the lot, the better before he or she spreads the rot.


Would you remain the same shameless cheating and lying creature or turn a new leaf in the coming year?

Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

I mean you know you are fortunate to come from a privileged family or have privileges the poor girls and women do not have and they cannot compete with you in the acquisition of the status symbols of your class conscious society.
Like you are a girl or lady from privileged background living your high life in the mega city of Lagos in Nigeria who can afford to go to the Silvierbird cinemas or Genesis Deluxe cinemas and later dine and wine at the fancy restaurants in on Victoria Island where you also meet and hook up with the big boys who frequent these places that only the comfortable people can afford, do you wonder how you would fare if you were not so opportune or privileged?

Would the big boys still treat you with comfort and respect if you were a poor babe from the ghettos of Isale Eko, Ajegunle or Makoko?

Like when you fancy a guy who is dating a poor girl or lady, do you respect her or look down on her and use your privileges to lure and snatch the guy from the poor girl or lady?

Have you imagined how she copes and fares living in a tenement where she shares the toilet with over 20 others who are co-tenants with her family?

Yes, all fingers are not equal and no condition is permanent, but have you ever practiced equity in your friendship and relationship with your fellow girls and ladies from different social backgrounds or you lead a dog eat dog life?
Are you an oppressor of the poor girls and ladies among you?

I have seen female students on the same campus in Lagos, but who actually feel superior to their fellow campus babes, because of the social class discrimination or because they have better opportunities than them.
I mean both of them are at UNILAG, but while one is from a privileged family in Ikoyi the other one is from a poor family in the back streets of Yaba. The privileged girl looks down on the poor one and simply says, “We are not in the same class.” But you are in the same university and all things being equal if the poor girl concentrates on her studies she will excel and graduate in flying colours and get her dream job that comes with all the perks and from the ghetto of Yaba she relocates to Lekki and then she catches up with the Joneses. Now would you still look down on her?

There are many different examples of these cases in every community of every society and the point is, we should relate with others in the loving kindness of TRUE LOVE by caring and sharing whatever we claim to have and not using our privileges or advantages to oppress others in our midst no matter their family backgrounds.
Lest we forget, none of us had the choice to be born poor or born rich. Therefore we should not use our contrasting backgrounds negatively but positively in our friendships and relationships.

Forget the lip service and eye service of the hypocrites who flatter you, exploiting the advantages of their privileges.

Beware of fair weather friends and lovers?
Mind how you relate and treat others today, because when tomorrow comes the times may bring you down at their feet.

I wish you happy holidays of true love.


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima

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Don't Let the Credit Crunch Harm Your Relationship - Keep Taking the Weekend Break

16 Jun 2008 08:00 Africa/Lagos

Don't Let the Credit Crunch Harm Your Relationship - Keep Taking the Weekend Break

LONDON, June 16/PRNewswire/ -- As part of its 'Campaign for the Real Weekend' a nationally representative survey commissioned by purplehotels and carried out by BMRB* has revealed fascinating statistics about 'weekend break ' habits amongst people in the UK.


Sex - or an increase in intimacy- was cited as a critical reason to take a weekend break by 38% of males and females questioned. Of which 44% of the 25/34-year age group strongly agreed a weekend away would improve the intimacy of their relationship with their partner.


Psychologist and "sex expert" Donna Dawson, says: "Work, in particular, appears to be stressing us out, as well as affecting our close relationships. A complete change of scenery appears to be the remedy for 'revving up' our jaded or non-existent sex lives, by injecting novelty, adventure and much-needed privacy into the proceedings."


A 'loved-up' weekend away also has a marked effect on returning home. Some 45% of women and 39% of men claimed it made them 'feel more able to cope with life' but 37% of respondents 'immediately yearned for another break' (For some, once wasn't enough!)


When asked 'How long after your return does the good feeling last?' 41% felt the 'benefits lasted a few days' whilst 20% of men declared ecstatically the 'good feeling lasted for at least a week'. Interestingly, 30% of men mentioned a great breakfast, the morning after, 'could be a deciding factor when choosing a hotel.'


Purplehotels questioned the need to escape from the stress of life to which the great majority of people (74%) revealed they hoped to grab a "chance to relax", 58% felt a break away would enable them "to feel better about work, life and family" whilst over a third (35%) of people wanted to "learn something new about a different part of Britain".


Understandably 76% of people cited 'value for money' as the most important factor when choosing a hotel; this was followed by 'convenience of location (52%) and friendly staff (38%) as the second and third important factors respectively.


35% of people plan to spend between GBP50 and GBP100 on accommodation for a weekend away, while 26% are prepared to spend over GBP100 and up to GBP150. This fits in well with the great value weekend breaks in purplehotels, which start from GBP29 per room. Guests are encouraged to feel as relaxed or raring- to- go as their hearts desire.


Purplehotels have launched a 'Campaign for the Real Weekend' to promote 'weekends not workends'.


Mike Prager, CEO explains: "Who says the weekend should be limited to Saturday and Sunday? At purplehotels we believe that the weekend is any time between Thursday & Monday & we price it that way too. My final tip is try calling in well to work. Most people at some time call in sick. Call in well and say 'I'm having a couple of days off and I feel great'. Then take off and visit this lovely island of ours!"


*The Survey was commissioned by purplehotels and carried out by BMRB via online Omnibus across 1,000 adults aged 16-64.


Purplehotels is a new 'no frills chic' brand of premium budget hotels with 11 hotels in the UK. Visit http://www.purplehotels.co.uk for further information about the Campaign for the Real Weekend.


Source: purplehotels

Media Contacts: Adhoc PR - Tel: +44(0)2074830030 - Deborah Parritt