Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

Do you care for the poor girls and women in your relationships?

I mean you know you are fortunate to come from a privileged family or have privileges the poor girls and women do not have and they cannot compete with you in the acquisition of the status symbols of your class conscious society.
Like you are a girl or lady from privileged background living your high life in the mega city of Lagos in Nigeria who can afford to go to the Silvierbird cinemas or Genesis Deluxe cinemas and later dine and wine at the fancy restaurants in on Victoria Island where you also meet and hook up with the big boys who frequent these places that only the comfortable people can afford, do you wonder how you would fare if you were not so opportune or privileged?

Would the big boys still treat you with comfort and respect if you were a poor babe from the ghettos of Isale Eko, Ajegunle or Makoko?

Like when you fancy a guy who is dating a poor girl or lady, do you respect her or look down on her and use your privileges to lure and snatch the guy from the poor girl or lady?

Have you imagined how she copes and fares living in a tenement where she shares the toilet with over 20 others who are co-tenants with her family?

Yes, all fingers are not equal and no condition is permanent, but have you ever practiced equity in your friendship and relationship with your fellow girls and ladies from different social backgrounds or you lead a dog eat dog life?
Are you an oppressor of the poor girls and ladies among you?

I have seen female students on the same campus in Lagos, but who actually feel superior to their fellow campus babes, because of the social class discrimination or because they have better opportunities than them.
I mean both of them are at UNILAG, but while one is from a privileged family in Ikoyi the other one is from a poor family in the back streets of Yaba. The privileged girl looks down on the poor one and simply says, “We are not in the same class.” But you are in the same university and all things being equal if the poor girl concentrates on her studies she will excel and graduate in flying colours and get her dream job that comes with all the perks and from the ghetto of Yaba she relocates to Lekki and then she catches up with the Joneses. Now would you still look down on her?

There are many different examples of these cases in every community of every society and the point is, we should relate with others in the loving kindness of TRUE LOVE by caring and sharing whatever we claim to have and not using our privileges or advantages to oppress others in our midst no matter their family backgrounds.
Lest we forget, none of us had the choice to be born poor or born rich. Therefore we should not use our contrasting backgrounds negatively but positively in our friendships and relationships.

Forget the lip service and eye service of the hypocrites who flatter you, exploiting the advantages of their privileges.

Beware of fair weather friends and lovers?
Mind how you relate and treat others today, because when tomorrow comes the times may bring you down at their feet.

I wish you happy holidays of true love.


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima