What Do You Wish for the Valentine?

Tomorrow, February 14, is St. Valentine's Day.

I have gone out since yesterday to distribute dozens of copies of my popular book of love, "The Language of True Love” on Bonny Island in the Niger Delta of Nigeria. I gave a copy to a tall and handsome Dutch who gave me a ride in his white jeep from the Nigerian LNG Estate to the Nigerian LNG Roundabout where I distributed more copies of the book to two Igbo vendors of VCDs to sell them. I had a brief discussion with the kind Dutch man before we parted. The Dutch man told me he has been working on Bonny Island since 2005 and happily secured with his wife and children. I told him that I am writer.
"You are a romance writer," he said as he looked at the title and romantic couple on the cover of "The Language of True Love".
"I write more on politics, poems and fiction," I said.
I told him that the peaceful environment of the Nigerian LNG Estate on Bonny Island is very conducive to the peace of mind a writer needs to write serious literature. I wanted to get away from the hustle and bustle of Lagos city or what Thomas Hardy called far from the madding crowd.
He nodded in agreement with me.
I told him that first Dutch man I met when I arrived Bonny Island was Mr. Wilmar Bliek and commended Mr. Bliek's good management of the Nigerian LNG Estate.

There is peace in the Nigerian LNG Estate, but there is violence in most of the host communities as unidentified and well-known militants have been on rampage and held hundreds of foreign oil workers and local oil workers hostage since 2003 with many casualties. Foreign oil workers dare not use the dangerous waterways, because hundreds of them have been kidnapped and later released in exchange for huge ransoms. Some have been killed and thousands have left the volatile Niger Delta for the safe parts of Nigeria. Unidentified gunmen shot and killed two male Naval officers last Monday, whilst they were escorting one of the Nigerian LNG ferries across the Bonny Channel. The management of the Nigerian LNG has suspended the official Ferry Service until further notice and a similar decision was taken last year when militant killed two police officers guarding the passengers and goods on a Nigerian LNG ferry. Dare devil gunmen and militants have forced the management of the Nigerian LNG to use helicopters to fly workers and others over the dangerous waterways to save lives, and use barges for the transportation of goods.
I did not want to discuss the Niger Delta crisis plaguing Nigeria, because I did not want to digress from the topic of our discussion or dampen his cheerful mood on the eve of St. Valentine's Day.
I thanked him as I alighted from the vehicle. I shut the door and he drove off in the direction of the Nigerian LNG Plant Complex in the Industrial Area.

Beware of online Valentine's greetings, because they may contain Internet worm and singles should beware of sex on Valentine's day, because of the rampant cases of STDs and HIV/AIDS.




What do you wish for the Valentine?

I would have loved to be with my one and only Val, Queen, who is far away in Abuja, the Federal Capital Territory (FCT). I have already bought a rose flower and other gifts meant for her as Christmas presents, but I have not been able to visit her. I have been delayed by unforeseen circumstances, because of the dangers of crossing the sea from Bonny Island to Port Harcourt before going on to Abuja by road or by air. I called her yesterday and told her to be rest assured of my love. I promised to come to Abuja later, she would be satisfied after my visit, and I have called her again today.

I have never loved anyone as I love Queen since I was born.
If I Could...

It started slowly.
Then it continued gradually and before I knew it, I have fallen in love with you.
Love comes either slowly or quickly.
But you will always know that you are simply in love.

"Valentine's Day 10-point plan."

5 Feb 2008 18:50 Africa/Lagos


Going Solo on Valentine's Day?

No Need to Forego Love, Celebrity Divorce Attorney/Author Offers Tips

LOS ANGELES, Feb. 5 /PRNewswire/ --

Celebrity divorce attorney and author, Stacy D. Phillips, says if you're single or alone no need to feel left out or forfeit love this Valentine's Day. Phillips suggests implementing one or more of the suggestions from her "Valentine's Day 10-point plan."


Though the concept of 'love and be loved' is commonly expressed among many romantic couples through a variety of Valentine's Day customs, Phillips says, those who are not presently involved in close, intimate relationships can also participate in the one day of the year that emphasizes giving and receiving love. "Get pro-active," Phillips asserts. "There are so many wonderful things you can do for yourself to feel loved and special during this once yearly 'hallmark' occasion." Phillips' tips on her punch list (some require a healthy sense of humor) include:


1. Create your own valentine web site: If http://www.bemyvalentine.com/
has been taken, create another. Nothing too personal. People will
respond.
2. Photoshop yourself with your favorite celebrity: Make a card out of
it, send it to yourself. Display it. Gloat.
3. Visit http://www.classmates.com/ Surprise some old school pals by
sending some valentines. Enjoy what they send back.
4. Hit the tattoo parlor: Large or small, get one that says "I love you."
It's a lifetime reminder of what you mean to you.
5. Clip a coupon: The word love must be on it. Now, buy and mail that
item to yourself. Act surprised.
6. Go to an animal shelter: Hang out with a dog or cat for the day. Feel
the love.
7. Customize candy: Find a candymaker that will inscribe little heart
candies with your messages. Eat them and smile.
8. Rent bad-breakup movies: Watch and give thanks the story isn't yours.
9. Go to Disneyland: No on the gondola or Matterhorn. Try "Small World,"
it's about universal love.
10. Who's your Mama, who's your Daddy?: Ladies call dad; men call Mom.
Ask: Will you be my valentine this year? They will never say no!


Stacy D. Phillips, book, Divorce: It's All About Control - How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars, is at http://www.amazon.com/ and all book stories throughout the country.


Source: Stacy D. Phillips

CONTACT: Cherie Kerr, +1-714-550-9900, cheriekerr@aol.com, or Jennifer
Lee, kerrpr@aol.com, both of KerrPR for Stacy D. Phillips

We Should Not Welcome Unfaithful Men and Unfaithful Women

We Should Not Welcome Unfaithful Men And Unfaithful Women.

You know you cannot be faithful to your partner, please leave before it is too late.

If you are being abused or misused in a relationship before marriage, please leave and don't make the mistake of wedding an abusive man or woman.

I abhor unfaithful men and women.

Many unfaithful men and women lie to deceive and lure ignorant and innocent men and women into relationships.

The following dialogue is very common among unfaithful lovers and partners.

‘ Do you have a boyfriend?"
“ No."

“ Do you have a girlfriend?"
“ No."

“ Are you married or in a relationship?"
“ No."

In the late 1990s, after my German partner returned to Munich and went missing, many of the local girls and women crept into my life and most of them left when I did not have any relationship with them until I met one appealing young lady from Edo state. She was tall and slim and I wanted her. She was brought to our uncle's house by the girlfriend of my cousin, a popular Nollywood actor. I did not waste time in winning her the same day we met on a Friday and on Monday; I wanted to sleep with her. She said it was too early to do so and I agreed, but she obliged to show me her beautiful body. As I explored her body, she was turned on and wanted me to make love to her. I was happy to do so and she said my manhood was too big for her and I stopped. She asked me to continue and I refused.
Whilst I was walking with her on the street in our neighbourhood, a short Igbo man came to her and asked her where she had been.
“ Becky, where did you go? And you took the key with you?"
She brought out the key and handed it to the man.

Later she told me that she was living with the man and they were live-in lovers, but she did not love him and would prefer to marry me.
I did not like the fact that she never told me that she had a boyfriend who accommodated and fed her. I felt sorry for the man she betrayed, I politely left her, and until date, I have never looked for her.

If she did not love the man, she should not have lived with him and pretending to love him.

There was another woman who is a popular fashion designer in Lagos and is married with three beautiful daughters and two handsome sons. I knew the husband who was tall and good-looking. Their first daughter who is now 20 and at Covenant University was very excited every time I visited and loved to read novels. I love girls and women who love literature, so we became close. I was very popular for my company of models and actors and she wanted me to tickle her fancy.
The mother told me that my slim and trim body excited her and I knew she wanted a relationship. She wanted us to go places together. When her husband left for Japan, she intensified her efforts to become my lover, but I stopped all her amourous overtures.
If I committed adultery with her, I would have committed fornication with her daughter. I walked far away for my own good.

Three other married women I had to flee from were even as dangerous as desperate housewives. One of them was a model and ruined my Valentine's Day four years ago as she visited me whilst I was relaxing with my Val, a beautiful Igbo Princess and an attorney. She ignored my Val and insisted that I must make love to her. I took her into the study, pecked her, and told her to leave. But she refused until my Val and I left the flat. Later, she went to confront my Val and wanted to discourage her from becoming my girlfriend. So, I went to her residence to see her husband and five children. They were poor and the husband was a very quiet man. I advised her to be faithful to her husband and help him to bring up their lovely children. I kept away from her.

I have seen women having extra-marital affairs for no good reason.
They were driven by their childish and foolish lust.

We should not welcome unfaithful men and unfaithful women.

~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima/Orikinla Osinachi
The Editor of The Language of True Love