Have A Great Weekend. But Remember...

Thank God for the weekend. But...

How can we be at ease in the state of chaos?
Yes, your own place could be peaceful as at present. But what of those in the Middle East? The dead cannot complain. But their bereaved survivors are restless and sleepless. And as I blog, another one bites the dust in Iraq or Lebanon.

If we are enjoying, don't forget the suffering and the dying. Spare a thought for those who cannot share our joys with us now. And remember that what is happening to them can happen to anybody at anytime. We should pray for them and do as much as we could oblige to help the homeless, the poor and needy and the bereaved ones near us.

May the good Lord who knows all things comfort us all.

I stood alone gazing at the sea
I stood ill at ease.
The sun had gone to rest in the west.
But the twilight was teasing the night.

I was wondering as my mind was wandering
I saw faces in the waves grimacing at me
Contorted and distorted bodies flowing to and fro
I saw them as they wailed, in the endless tears of the earth.

Ahaah!
Tamuno Tonye.
So, you don't know that the seven seas are full of our endless tears
The seas are the tears of the earth since the first teardrop from Mother Earth.
And she has never stopped weeping and will never stop until our sorrows end.

Only God can end our sorrows.

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Happy Mother's Day!

Dr. Dora Akunyili of Nigeria.

Happy Mother's Day to all loving mothers all over the world. And if only my own Mama could be here. But Mama has since passed on. So, I remember her today again as I have already done before on my blog.

But I wonder why Google did not celebrate it on their homepage as they usually celebrate other events. And even the over rated MySpace did not give any sign that it is Mother's Day.

I am still wondering how and why the introverted extrovert actress Amanda of Amanda UnBoomed is so popular. The SEOs are as queer as Elton John and George Michael caught in the act with their thongs down. Some mothers do have em indeed.

Kisses & Roses Mother of the Day is the leading role-model in Nigeria. Dr. Dora Akunyili.

As a workaholic and perfectionist, Dora Akunyili has not only changed NAFDAC, she also changed the Pharmaceutical industry and has been able to bring fake drugs, unwholesome food and other substandard regulated products to the barest minimum in the shortest possible time.

Lest I forget, go get a something special for your mother on my Amazing Amazon Gifts Store or on eBay

Give all my loving kisses and sweet roses to all our beloved mothers all over the world.

For more on Mother's Day, see the Vanguard of Nigeria

Love Comes

Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind.
--Bertrand Russell

Love comes in different forms, shapes and sizes
And can fall on you in drizzles or in showers.
You can be trapped by love
Like a gold fish caught in a net.

But love is best when you are free to perch on any tree
And not like a bird kept in a cage
But like the dove left to fly wherever it chooses
From Trafalgar Square to Tinubu Square.

When love comes
You could be caught unawares
For love comes in different ways
And not always as your spirit sways.

What Is Your Parenting Style?

My life is based on God, family and country.
Parenting is the beginning of nation-building.

Just take this simple test of your parenting style.

Saby, What Shall We Say To India?

Last Friday, we had the first memorial anniversary for the terrorist bomb attacks in London on July 7, 2005 and the bereaved families are still being haunted by the nightmares as well as all the other victims of terrorists all over the world. We now live in perpetual fear of the blood thirsty demons on rampage and we cringe at the sight of another gory scene of the terrorist bomb attacks on the trains in Bombay,India. So, where is next?

We are no longer safe anywhere on earth?

Saby tell me why your people are always proud to tell the rest of the world "I Love My India" and tell me if we have not been led astray in our confusion over God and Religion and how can we Heal the World" when we are still so self-destructive?

I love India and will always do, for better for worse. And no matter the evils perpetrated by the devils, the star of India will continue to shine.


"This is not the first time that the enemies of our nation have tried to undermine our peace and prosperity."

"These elements have not yet understood that we Indians can stand united."

"The wheels of our economy will move on."

"We will win this war against terror."
~Prime Minister Manmohan Singh
Washington Post

May God comfort the bereaved ones.

The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm

I published "The Language of True Love" last January and it was released specially for the Valentine. The book is a collector's item. But 99% of the visitors and readers of Kisses & Roses are ignorant of this book.

God said my people perish for lack of knowledge.

If you want to improve your love life, you need to read "The Language of True Love".

Now, what do you know about the most misunderstood subject of female sexuality and reproductive health-the female orgasm?

Posing and posturing will not help our ignorance.



Here is the classic analysis of the crisis of ignoraance about the female orgasm in "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm" by Anne Koedt.

Whenever female orgasm and frigidity are discussed, a false distinction is made between the vaginal and the clitoral orgasm. Frigidity has generally been defined by men as the failure of women to have vaginal orgasms. Actually the vagina is not a highly sensitive area and is not constructed to achieve orgasm. It is the clitoris which is the center of sexual sensitivity and which is the female equivalent of the penis.

I think this explains a great many things: First of all, the fact that the so-called frigidity rate among women is phenomenally high. Rather than tracing female frigidity to the false assumptions about female anatomy, our "experts" have declared frigidity a psychological problem of women. Those women who complained about it were recommended psychiatrists, so that they might discover their "problem" -diagnosed generally as a failure to adjust to their role as women.

The facts of female anatomy and sexual response tell a different story. Although there are many areas for sexual arousal, there is only one area for sexual climax; that area is the clitoris. All orgasms are extensions of sensation from this area. Since the clitoris is not necessarily stimulated sufficiently in the conventional sexual positions, we are left "frigid."

Aside from physical stimulation, which is the common cause of orgasm for most people, there is also stimulation through primarily mental processes. Some women, for example, may achieve orgasm through sexual fantasies, or through fetishes. However, while the stimulation may be psychological, the orgasm manifests itself physically. Thus, while the cause is psychological, the effect is still physical, and the orgasm necessarily takes place in the sexual organ equipped for sexual climax, the clitoris. The orgasm experience may also differ in degree of intensity - some more localized, and some more diffuse and sensitive. But they are all clitoral orgasms.

All this leads to some interesting questions about conventional sex and our role in it. Men have orgasms essentially by friction with the vagina, not the clitoral area, which is external and not able to cause friction the way penetration does. Women have thus been defined sexually in terms of what pleases men; our own biology has not been properly analyzed. Instead, we are fed the myth of the liberated woman and her vaginal orgasm - an orgasm which in fact does not exist.

What we must do is redefine our sexuality. We must discard the "normal" concepts of sex and create new guidelines which take into account mutual sexual enjoyment. While the idea of mutual enjoyment is liberally applauded in marriage manuals, it is not followed to its logical conclusion. We must begin to demand that if certain sexual positions now defined as "standard" are not mutually conducive to orgasm, they no longer be defined as standard. New techniques must be used or devised which transform this particular aspect of our current sexual exploitation.

The rest of the facts

Communion of Love

(for my Sweetest)
We stood more in the light than in the darkness
We gazed face to face
We parted our lips in words of happiness.
And we found solace in the warmth of our embrace.

Come my sweetest
Come my dearest
Come and taste the nectar of heart of hearts
The sweetest essence of our existence.

Give me nothing more than love.
For love is the elixir of life.

Remember London 7/7

Lest, we forget.
Remember the unfortunate victims of the terrorist bomb attacks on London on July 7, 2005. And let us light a candle for everyone of them and comfort the bereaved families all over the world.

For the photographs of all the victims, see my Scarlet Tears of London
Please, you should read Video by One of London Bombers Released

To Espana With Love

The CNN Correspondent was solemn.

VALENCIA, Spain -- Three days of mourning has been declared in Valencia as distraught relatives and friends begin arriving in the eastern port city to identify the victims of the worst subway accident in Spain's history.

At least 41 people were killed -- including the driver -- and another 47 injured on Monday when a train derailed in as it was traveling from Plaza de Espana to Jesus Station, officials say.
CNN

I stood at Jesus Station
Dumb and numb.
I stood with my head bowed like the drooping Passion Flower
Fate has trampled on our sunflowers in the heat of summer.
I stood statuesque mumbling the psalms.
With my teardrops in my cold palms.

I have sent my condolences to Toni.
But, no condolences can resurrect the dead.
I can still hear the echoes of the elegies from Plaza de Espana.
The chorus of the bereaved mourners of Valencia.

Tres días no serán suficiente en llorar para España.

Falling in Love is High Risk Behaviour

If you think falling in love is easy, then you are more mistake than smitten.
Because, everybody knows that heartache is worse than headache.

If only you knew the millions of cases of failed love affairs and the heartbreaking consequences, you would be speechless.

Terrible deeds have been done all in the name of love.

Yes, sweethearts are celebrating love all over the world. And everyday is St. Valentine's Day to all true lovers. But love is not always a bed of roses. When you agree to accept his roses, be ready to also accept the thorns.

I am a daring lover. Because, I can dare to love even total strangers falling headlong in love. Imagine proposing to people you met in the blogosphere. Absolute strangers. Like walking up to Lauren of Le Ciel Est La Limite and with my head in the clouds, asking her; "Could you be loved by a total stranger?". Of course, she could be flattered or mistake me for another Don Quixote online. But I have done it offline before and I won the heart of one of the most beautiful women on planet earth.

Yes. Falling in love could be risky. But don't be afraid to dare to fall in love.

I will pray for you to find the true love of your life.